The Art of Humility

'Submission by force is not submission at all’

Humility is defined as the quality or condition of being humble;  modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank.  Adisposition to be humble; a lack of false pride, the quality or state of being humble.

Submission is defined as the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.

Lowliness of mind, humility, is a mental quality which enables its possessor to look up with appreciation, not only their Master, but others, recognizing their good qualities. This lowliness of mind should be in allsubmissives; this fact proves it to be a quality that demands careful cultivation.  Not all submissives are lowly in mind. Some of them think more highly of themselves than they ought to think. Some of them may be proud of having served well or of their ability to serve well. Any such pride is very objectionable in the sight of the Dominant, and indicates that its possessor has a very small mind; for, with a proper estimate of matters, the best of us can see that we have nothing of which to be proud, nothing of which to boast. If we have received anything, we should boast of our receipts, instead of glorying in something as if we had attained itourselves.

Humility is required because we have nothing whatever of which to be proud or to boast.  Whatever we have has been given to us by our Master, thus it is His pride not ours.  So the Dominant should spend earnest effort to stimulate and encourage humility. Some have this quality naturally; but the larger number have to contend against the reverse tendency--        self-esteem, self-exaltation, pride--a feeling that they are superior to others.

Humble ourselves

To humble ourselves does not necessarily mean to think that we have no talent, no power, no ability. Such an attitude would be foolishness. But we should think soberly of ourselves. We should think of all oursanctions as coming from our Dominant. So if we find that we have some blessings more than our neighbor or our brother or our sister, let us be thankful; but let us not for a moment think that we have anything to make us proud. It is a gift.  We should appreciate the gift, but we should not be puffed up over its possession. The fact that we have received the gift indicates that we lacked it, needed it.  Thus again our Master has proven His worth in Dominance over us.

The one who has naturally a proud heart, but who brings himself to the point of submission, manifests humility. If, on the other hand, one who by nature has too low an estimate of themself, will still submit themself,and the Master will show them the proper attitude of mind.

Biblically, the Apostle speaks of those who receive the Holy Spirit as having the "spirit of a sound mind." In proportion as we seek to become acquainted with our Master and to submit ourselves to His will, in that same proportion we become balanced in mind. We become more and more sane, if you please. Thus we are getting the balance of a sound mind, the spirit of a sound mind. Our reasoning faculties become more developed as we grow in grace and in the knowledge of the true submission taught to us by our Master. We must admit that we need ourMaster, and that without Him we can do nothing. So we take this position: "i am nothing but what i am as seen through the eyes of my Master; i know that i am imperfect, that i have nothing which i have not received. Master provides everything; whatever i have is a gift from Him.Knowing all this, i gratefully accept these things, and humble myself under His mighty hand."

The world says, "No! I will not submit myself; if I need any punishment I will take what is coming to me." Such is the spirit of a worldly heart that has not yet learned its need and its impotence. But the spirit of a consecrated heart is that of submission to the will of their Master. Such recognize that their only source of help is at the hand of their Master.Such a course would evidence real humility, no matter how proud-spirited one might be by nature. As they would progress in the good way, and see more clearly wherein they had made mistakes, their humility would increase. So we are to submit ourselves, humble ourselves, have no will of our own, but merely seek our Master’s will.

​Scenario

​​Finding myself many times being a good girl for several days if not even weeks.  i am given more freedom to roam in the yard.  But then it comes, a situation where another is put before me.  Then i forget my place, my position in submission.  Pride takes over and i am looking to see what i am going to get in return.  Completely forgetting what i have already been given.  First i have to remember my mantra “Who does this body belong to?  Master; Who does this heart belong to? Master; Who does this mind belong to?  Master”  It becomes a moment of “What would Master do?”.  Then breathe and most likely bow.  This is the only way i can process getting back to my humble center.  Being human is one thing, i will lose my grounding, but over time the trust in my place will help my humility to grow in strength and the times between my spins lessen.  Typically i am very hard on myself knowing i havedisappointed or hurt Master during this process, but He hasfaith in me and knows my strength and willingness will keep me growing.

Forced Humility

When the response of submission is forced, it ceases to be submission because it must be a willing act from the heart to make it genuine.  So when humility has to be forced on a submissive to not only define their place but to remind them of their position, it is not submission at all.  A submissive mind seeks to uplift another, rather than focusing on how it can be uplifted.  In the spirit of humility, we will give, seeking nothing in return.  This is the platform to greatness, the heart that is worthy of exaltation, for which the Master will reward.  

Pride is a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired. A feeling of self-respect and personal worth.

How satisfying is it to “feel a deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements”?  We spend a  lot of time trying tofeed our soul instead of giving.  Until we get hungry again for that next thrill of self achievement. Which might be as soon as tomorrow, and that fleeting.  It is tiring massaging our own egos.  It’s not measuring up to the sustaining nourishment we get when submitting or obeying the will of someone who means something to us.  We act with pride out of fear of not having the strength to stand on our own.  We forget we are not on our own and we have the great strength of our Master, they are with us and for the good in us.  We don’t live for ourselves we live now for our Master.

It brings about the term ‘pass under the yoke’.  To make a humiliating submission; to be humbly forced to acknowledge one’s defeat. In ancient Rome vanquished enemies were forced to pass under an arch formed by two spears placed upright in the ground, with a third resting on them. This was a symbol of the even older practice of placing a yoke on the neck of a captive.

Warnings of how harmful forced humility can be. Warnings of how assured of my identity in my Master i must be. Warning of how anything else will just defer my destiny.

Also warnings of how i must spend time with Master, i believe this is where any source of security comes from. When we get so self-absorbed that what seemed like humility fast became about self.Spending time at the feet of our Master is our only hope.

When it takes humiliation or forced reverence to submit it becomes a behavior being forced on another verse a willing act of submission.  This forced humbling will either enlighten the subject to submit humbly on their own or it will become an alter who’s flame continues to burn out and has to be lit by others, thus it is not their flame to begin with.

“Whoever exalts himself shall be humbled;

and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted” (Matthew 23:12).

Scenario

​​Mind games are very good in training my pride.  Naturallyone who is prideful, it hurts that pride when i am tested and i fail.  Worried about the outcome not the process, i don’t focus on the journey it takes to get to the end result.  Trying to give in or manipulate to get the result i want becomes a frustratingendeavor only sending me deeper into a spin.  Then the alter egocomes out and honestly just doesn’t care anymore.  Giving up on it all, humility is gone, pride is hurt and i am a shell.  Feeling broken to the core.  It takes the forced hand and a punishment of force or creativity to force me to look past myself.  Not only did i not accomplish the original challenge, i have been prideful andgiven up on my place.  Leaving Master’s side and not trusting in His direction.  He has to force me to care to get back to center.  There are gentle moments where He gives me warnings trying to nudge me back into the fence but it ends up taking the forced kick in the ass to throw me back into submission.  So it brings about the thought, was i submissive at all.  Now of course i am.  Growing from that instance and so many others.  We all have to learn and grow.  But i have learned to remember my place and it is being true to myself to humble myself.  Always rememberingthat it is Him who i serve.  Existing for Him and His pleasure.  If i want the joys and pleasures i desire, i need to strive to serve in the fashion that they are gifted to me as i deserve nothing, what i am given is a gift by Him.

A Bound Relationship in Humility

The humility of a relationship is more fluid if one submits because they love Him, because they are deeply respected, because it was vowed to put His needs over their own.  It is more meaningful to humbly submit because of those reasons and not just because it was their “place” in the hierarchy of the relationship.  An attitude of humility is necessary for true, heartfelt submission.  

We are to imitate Christ, who “although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant…” (Philippians 2).   As a submissive we are part of, an extension of, our Master but we are not equal, we are a bound servant.  The essence of submission, then, is not the absence of power but the voluntary relinquishing of it.  It’s not about sticking to a prescribed hierarchy; it’s about walking in humility. 

Adventures in water play

You asked for my vow.....i gave with all certainty all of me, completely all of me.  This body lives for the passion to please You and be used by You.  The way You choose to use it is of consequence but only reward in my giving of this flesh.
The release of my mind into Your possession.  For You to care for it and nurture it and mold it, break it down and build it back up.  It was given to You fully with the hope that my desires i had locked away in it would be discovered and be set free.  The desire i have to be one with another.  To have no boundary and to release all in my mind and let go.  To trust beyond question, beyond obedience, it is a trust of my life in Your hands.  The trust that my mind will be safe and grow stronger through Your training.
This form in my soul that attempts to hold the lava flow of love and passion.  The beat inside me that has a magnetic pull towards You.  The piece inside me that seems to be broken more than it is whole.  This heart was given to You so You can hold it strong and make it whole.  That You could protect it and nurture it and lead it to expel the love that flows inside it for meaningful and fulfilling purposes.  The purpose to love and please You Master.
i gave these gifts of myself to You completely.  Body, Mind and Heart.  They are Your possessions.
In giving all of myself to You it leaves me at Your will.  To touch theses pieces of my being again are what make me feel alive.  When You use this body, whether by force or by a loving touch, You are the one that makes it feel alive again.
When You put Your finger of God inside and play with this mind.  It finds the energy and pulse that makes me remember the substance it holds and the power You trust me to hold within it.  i am zapped with force and the power greater than physical strength to overcome and endure, or dream and fantasize anything imaginable.  All of these things in my mind are to honor You.
When You embrace my heart, there is a love that flows between us more powerful than anything Wwe could have dreamed.  It is a passion that affects the moon and the tide.  It can beat like a sonic wave or tick like a cat purring.
It is giving all of myself to a Man worthy of possessing it.  In doing so the love that is formed is kinetic.  You touch one piece and the energy pushes the other sides to grow.  So when You push my boundaries it pushes my senses in all the realms of my being.
In an attempt the explain how Oour growth in water play is loved so deeply by me, i want You to see how i look at Oour dynamic in the realm of giving all of myself to You, the One worthy of owning my gifts.
It started simply enough, Wwe are showering like great lovers do.  As a slave i worship You in cleansing Your body, one of my favorite gifts of service.  It is part of my training to pee in the shower, even many vanillas pee in the shower.  So You pee, i pee, it is natural.
One day You have me kneel to mark me with Your scent.  Wwe have discussed how animalistic Wwe are in Oour passion.  So it seemed so very natural to have You mark me in this way.  To be known to the world (because in my mind all other men can then smell this mark), to be knows as taken.  So i kneel and You piss on me.  i rub it over my body and You command me to rub it on Your pussy.  As i do i feel like You are worshiping me, not in a humbling way, but cleansing me of my sin and protecting me with Your marking.  It was the beginning.
The term 'peeing appropriately' became understood that You were to pee on me and through me..... That peeing alone in the toilet was a waste of a gift.  You would say "Daddy has to pee now" and i would know i needed to go and sit on the toilet.  You would come as pee down my chest as it ran into the toilet.   i had a purpose, i had a use, You had a need for me and my body.  A slave needs to be needed.
A time or two later, You had finished peeing and had me suck Your cock dry.  The amazing sultry salty taste, like salted caramel.  Just a drop or two.  It wasn't bad at all and all seemed so natural.  It was a natural act of submission for me.
In time Your markings reached higher on this body and i was told to open my mouth to receive Your offering and for me to accept it.  It would flow into my mouth and bubble up and out as the stream continued.   The salt made my mouth water and it was amazing to feel Your wetness be encapsulated by the cum like saliva in my mouth.  A little bit more was swallowed here and there.  And it was accepted that i give You my all, and in breaking down all Oour barriers Wwe had formed a special bond that neither of Uus had ever had with another.
The scene moved from the tub an toilet to the bed.  You were playing in my mind and said You were going to pee in Your pussy.  Unbenounced to me, it was my own gushing cum from the erotic though that i felt and not Your golden offering flowing in this pussy. Wwe knew then i was open to the experience and it turned into pleasure and pain as the weeks to come gave You the use of this body to fuck it raw and then cleans it with the salty pour of liquid love, with a slight burn, the feel good, fuck my ass harder kind of pain combined with the relief of wetness, it made the use of this body all the more erotic.
We had gone from "You can pee on me, not in me" to a whole new level.
As Oour time in bed got wetter and wetter, Wwe found a fantastic taboo to overcome that.....  i would take the golden love in my mouth and accept all of it.  As i swallow, Wwe both know there is nothing in this world i wouldn't do for You, it wasn't even asked if me, but i knew if You desired it of me, i would give You all You wished for.  i give You my all, body, mind and heart.  They are all how i love, how i express my love, the quality of time Wwe spend in my offering of every piece of me and the gift i give of my will to give all of me to You.  my love language poured into service.  So when You receive my gifts of service like this they are my love poured out for You.  They are how i embrace and express my love, all the love of a slave.  Your slave.